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Return to Handwriting Analysis

Friday, July 16th, 2010

 by Phyllis Kennemer

When my friend Lynda contacted me about giving some lectures on handwriting for some groups in libraries, my first impulse was to say “No.” My years as an active handwriting analyst were far behind me and I had tossed all of my materials when I moved from my house to my apartment about three years ago.

Then I talked to Lynda on the telephone and she quoted a generous honorarium, plus mileage, for the lectures. I reconsidered. How hard could it be to reconstruct something I had worked with so intimately for more than ten years. Of course those ten years were from about 1968 to 1981!

First, I needed to get some materials to review. I went online and discovered a website for the International Graphoanalysis Society. Since I had signed up as a lifetime member in 1969, I thought I would be able to acquire what I needed relatively easily. Not so fast! The new owner would not communicate with me via his website and hung up on me when I telephoned him. I found a used set of materials on Amazon.com and told Lynda I would do the lectures.

I prepared my talk on the letter “t”. This letter represents the writer’s goals and accomplishments and the letter is made in a variety of ways. I begin each session with writing a paragraph containing lots of “t’s” on the board and ask participants to copy it in a style of writing that is comfortable for them. Then they can analyze their own writing as we continue.

My first lecture was for a teenage audience. This was a new and interesting experience. The teenagers wrote the paragraph on their papers and promptly turned the papers over so no wandering eyes would discover anything about them. They sat almost expressionless throughout the session and I was afraid I was boring them, but when I finished each one had personal questions for me. They had taken it all in!

The next two lectures were given for adult audiences. They were attentive and interactive – asking many questions as we went along. A common question began with “Does this mean anything?” The answer is always “Yes”. Every stroke placed on a surface means something.

When I reflected on my return to handwriting analysis, I was glad I had reacquainted myself with something of significance in my life. And I was glad that I had once again come to the realization that, “Yes. Everything we do, write, or say does have meaning.”

THE MAGIC OF TRAVEL

Thursday, June 10th, 2010

Vacations are wonderful things if they provide you with what you need.   One requires different travel experiences at different phases of one’s life.  You may have loved camping when your children were young, but now perhaps you crave leaving your camping stove at home and taking a cooking class in Santa Fe or even Oaxaca, Mexico.

 If you are totally stressed out and exhausted, spending lazy days on a beach letting the sound of the surf polish your jagged edges may appeal to you.

  If you are citified and longing for Mother Nature and adventure, then hiking through Patagonia in South America or even the more primitive trails in your home state may be your choice.

At the moment, my daughter and her new husband are in Alaska visiting our son who lives there.  She has fallen head over heels in love with Alaska and the fishing experiences she is having.  Her first day there, she stood in the ocean for six hours straight throwing out her line without a bite.  Eventually, she snagged a salmon and hauled it in and was ecstatic!  To my shock, my son informed me that she ate the fish eggs from the newly cut open fish right there on the beach-apparently that is what fisherpeople do.  I am amazed that anyone would find joy in standing in waders in thigh high water all afternoon without food, drink or a toilet and then dining on fish roe without the sour cream or crackers.   Not my thing, but then again, I don’t have a desk job in an architectural firm like she does where she pores over blueprints and the fine points of design.  No wonder the majestic spaces and wonderful smells of Alaska appeal to her!

                So dear readers, if you had unlimited time and resources at your disposal, what would your dream travel experience be at this point in your life?  Where would you go and what would you do?

Friend Rules

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

My dog Zoey and I were out on a walk two months ago on a spring-like day. We saw three geese dosing on a landscaped section of grass in a Fort Collins office plaza. We barreled off the sidewalk and headed toward the geese with me restraining my 8.6-pound daschund as she chased her new friends. They fluttered their wings and waddled a few feet away.

Zoey walked faster, and I pulled harder, trying to keep her far enough away from the wild creatures. I didn’t know if they would snap their beaks or squabble, teaching her that not everyone, animal and human alike, is eager for friendship.

In repetitive fashion, Zoey pulled and the geese hopped away, but after a few times of this, “the potential friends” gave up their comfortable grass and flew halfway across the parking lot we had just reached. Zoey kept trying, and to me, it felt like she was saying, “But they can be my friends.”

The same goes with the feral cat hiding under a shed at my father’s house. Every time Zoey goes out in the yard when we visit, the first place she runs is to the shed. “Is the cat there?” she seems to ask. “I know there is a friend somewhere in there,” she says.

Zoey reminds me of myself as a child, wanting friends and not knowing the difference between those who could be mean and the genuine kind ones who can love you for who you are.

For me, it took a lot of hurts and taunts and whatever else girls do to each other before I realized that friends are hard to find. You can’t look for them underneath a shed or in the grass or in the air. Or maybe you can. Maybe Zoey knows more than me about friendship with her happy hope that everyone loves her, if not now, soon once they see how cute she is and what a good girl she can be, only if.

Gone Home

Sunday, May 30th, 2010

A 50th high school reunion beckoned me home to NJ.

100 + class members attended. Some came with spouses others without. Many still lived and worked throughout the state. Others traveled from NY, CA, SC, FL, OH, VA, MA, VT, and CO to join in the festivities.

What surprised me most was the instant connection we made with one another. Seemed like yesterday…Oh sure, a few years may have passed, gray hairs sprouted and an extra pound or two found its way to intrude, but still present was the same zest for life. One success story after another brought a sense of pride for these old friends who so aptly represented East Side High School out in the world.

Good food, lots of fun and rekindling of friendships…fantastic. DJ played “our” kind of music…Rock ‘n Roll of the fifties. Lots of chatter, laughing, singing and dancing! We let the good times roll!

Next day after the reunion breakfast I was on the move.
I drove all over NJ to visit with several high school friends who couldn’t make reunion, college friends and family. I scouted old jaunts, rode by homes we lived in, WALKED, really walked, the boardwalk in several beach towns—Seaside Heights, Point Pleasant Beach, and Belmar. Oh the memories generated in these places!

Sand dunes, salty air, ocean waves caressing the sandy beach, sun bathers tanning on colorful towels and blankets and small boats cruising the shoreline were a welcomed sight. Amusement rides for adults and kids, including the carousel and its magical calliope music, drew children of all ages who, with ticket in hand, waited their turn. Hawkers at the game stands challenged the vacationers to take a chance at winning a prize. Carnival type food, pizza at Tomato Joey’s, salt water taffy from Jenkinson’s Beach teased and pleased my taste buds. Miniature golf, fun houses, souvenir shops and the fun filled arcades still lured the crowds. Aside from a few upgrades, the boardwalk hadn’t changed much. And how could I not mention the spicy, Lobster Diablo dinner I savored while sitting at a window table watching the boats come and go along Shark River? Nothing like melt-in-your-mouth fresh seafood to top off a wonderful trip.

So happy I went because Helen Pepsin (maiden name) rose to the occasion and uncovered/rediscovered her old self, the one from a lifetime ago…LOL. She was and still is lots of fun. I wonder how she got lost in being Mrs. Eddie and Jimmy’s mother, Andy’s mother, Matthew’s mother and Amy’s mother.

Gone home…you bet I did. What a trip! A true blast from the past.

THE PERILS OF PEEING IN EUROPE

Monday, May 24th, 2010

 

                I travel all over the world and the one thing I’ve learned for sure is that it really doesn’t matter how fat one is.  What matters is how long one can go without peeing. 

            Nothing is worse in Europe than the excruciating pain of an overfull bladder and no toilet in sight. Even if you stumble on a toilet, if you don’t have a coin…you are screwed.  The way it works is that you are supposed to find a coffee shop and buy a coffee as payment to use the facilities.  This makes no sense as the coffee goes directly to one’s bladder and the cycle simply repeats itself.

On my trip to Europe this past April, I was searching frantically for a toilet on the streets of Barcelona and was unable to find one.  Desperate, I ran into a museum that was twenty minutes from closing and threw 6 Euro at the ticket taker just so I could use the toilet.  I bought a 6 Euro cup of coffee so I could pee in Santorini, Greece and a 6 Euro glass of bad wine to pee in Dubrovnik, Croatia in a camping potty behind a curtain on the edge of a cliff.  Each time, it was money well-spent.

Some days I’d travel to some far off destination on a fancy motor coach with a toilet on board, BUT, the toilets are always locked, mocking you as you curse that one teeny sip of coffee that mostly you only smelled but didn’t drink for breakfast.  I guess if management unlocked the toilet and let the passengers actually use them, then they would have to clean them which would increase their overhead!  On a train ride to Rome, I needed to pee so desperately that I used the toilet at the end of the car.  Unfortunately, the toilet locks itself at the train station when it is standing still and unlocks itself as it is hurling 80 kilometers an hour down the track.  No wonder the walls and floors are sticky!!!

When I was lucky enough to find a toilet on my travels, the line reached to Jamaica!  But only if you are a woman.  The men never waited, something to do with the ease of not undoing a belt and the freedom of peeing standing up at a urinal.  My husband was in and out in a flash and I spent most of my vacation in a cue at the “ladies room.”   So ladies, this is the new rule.  UNDO ALL YOUR CLOTHING FASTENINGS WHILE YOU ARE STANDING IN LINE.  GO INSIDE THE STALL AND PEE.  IMMEDIATELY EXIT THE STALL AND DEAL WITH YOU FASTENINGS OUTSIDE THE STALL. I’ve done the math.  The fastenings add two minutes to each person in line. 

And remember, really smart people make it a policy to never drink any liquids when traveling, no exceptions.

MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS

Monday, May 10th, 2010

MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS

            This year Mother’s day was wonderful and continues to be my favorite day of the year.  My son who lives in Alaska chatted with me on the phone for an hour and informed me that he and his girlfriend bought a microwave oven on Craig’s list in order to make homemade soy candles as a Mother’s Day gift. 

            My 29 year old daughter spent the day with me and during the morning we were out and about and ran into many people I know.  The reoccurring comment was “Your daughter looks just like you.”  I don’t really know how I feel when I hear that comment.  I remember when Suzanna was ten years old hiking up the hill to catch the bus to school.  My neighbor who watched her said, “Your young daughter looks just like you, in fact, she even walks like you!”  At the time, I remember thinking, “Poor Suzanna.” In my heart, I was hoping for more for her. 

            Yesterday, I phoned my mother who lives in a nursing home in New Mexico.  When my daughter talked with her, I overheard the following – “Mom and I went to the nursery this morning and looked at plants and it was so much fun.  When I was a little girl, my Mom made me help her in the garden and I hated it. Now, I love gardening, it is so meditative!”

            Unlike the comment that we look alike, which is the luck of genetic draw, I knew exactly how I felt about her turning out just like me in the gardening area.  I was very pleased.  I had exposed her to the beauty of digging in the earth and it had imprinted on her.  In this regard, my daughter is just like me and it is all I hoped for.

Inspiration Extraordinaire

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

A little over nineteen years ago I invited a scraggly, abandoned cat into my life. Little did I know the profound effect that decision would have on me. 

I wanted Snickers as soon as I saw his picture in the newspaper as the local Humane Society’s featured pet of the week. Besides convincing my husband I had to have this cat, I needed written permission from our landlord. All this took time. Time in which I feared someone else would adopt him before I could.

Once the hurdles were finally cleared, I dragged my husband out the door. The short drive to the animal shelter seemed to take forever. I rushed inside and scanned the cages. “We’re too late!” I wailed.

The woman at the front desk assured us Snickers was still in residence. We looked again and found the enclosure with his name. The dirty, matted creature huddled in the cage did not look anything like the picture I’d seen in the newspaper. Turns out, the photo had been a close-up of his face, strategically taken not to show the bedraggled state of the rest of his body.

“Are you sure you want this cat?” my husband asked. “We could get a different one.”

I stuck my fingers between the wire bars. Snickers rubbed up against them and purred. He had a gravelly meow, bright blue eyes, and beautiful seal-point coloring beneath all the dirt. “I’m sure,” I answered. We filled out the paperwork and took him home.

Our new cat was all we’d hoped for: intelligent, playful, and affectionate. He was also bossy, opinionated, and continually voiced his viewpoint in a loud insistent meow that virtually ensured he always got his way.

When I decided to write a children’s novel, Snickers helped by curling up on my lap and rubbing his chin on my pencil while I wrote. It soon became our tradition. He’d hop on the couch as soon as he saw me settle in to work. Somehow, staring into his deep blue eyes seemed to help the ideas flow. Not surprisingly, my main character had a cat who tagged along throughout the story.

“Cut the cat,” my critique group said.

“I can’t. He’s important,” I argued.

“Why? He doesn’t do anything for the story.”

Why indeed? They were right, of course. But the cat didn’t want to be cut. In fact, the cat wanted to take over. He was bossy and opinionated. His cocky personality seemed familiar. Then it hit me . . . He was Snickers!

Any cat lover can tell you the sum of their cat is more than its parts. Their aura of mystery is legendary. I found myself completely captivated by imagining my cat’s secret life.

I ditched my first book and started over. The main character of my new adventure story is Snickers, the hero who saves the feline way of life.

Not long after Snickers’s twenty-first birthday, he stopped eating. After a phone call to our vet who is also a personal friend, I knew it was time. That night she came to our house and put Snickers to sleep on my lap while silent tears streamed down my face.

I can’t help but think he lived so long because he was holding out for our book to hit the shelves. Like me, he fantasized it would be a run-away best seller and he wanted to see his name in print alongside of mine. Because of course, he knew that without his influence, I’d never have found my story.

Someday our book will be published and Snickers will live on through all the children who read his story. But for now, the dedication page is only written in my heart. “To the real Snickers, my old friend and Inspiration Extraordinaire. Rest in peace.”